Well, not really, but still some free advice.

Especially when the baby has been long waited for, its arrival will bring out the warmest feelings possible. It will however also create a massive chaos. Sleep deprivation for the parents, midnight feedings and incremental levels of stress – some lucky parents get a baby that sleeps most of time, but are still unable to rest themselves as they continually get up to check on the newborn – these are just a few of the changes a new baby will bring. If this is not your first baby, you will probably manage just fine, but if this is your first baby, it is probable for you to panic in the face of the chaos. So here are some pointers as to how you could cope with the newborn.

1. Get somebody to help you
It is of the utmost importance that you do not try to take care of the baby all by yourself. For the first weeks, your spouse or partner could take some time off and you could rotate. As he has to return to work, you should consider getting help from outside the home. You could for instance ask your mother to stay with you for a while. Also, you could hire a person to come in two, three times a week and just stay with the baby while you clean, cook, go out or do whatever. You could then hire somebody to take care of the domestic chores.

2. Gather information
If your personal experience with babies is limited, you could tend to panic. But do not! Maintain constant communications with the pediatrician – choose one that is open to discussions and is patient – and discuss with other mothers whenever you can. And don’t forget to go online to forums and gather information.

3. Listen to the baby
In time, you will be able to distinguish what the baby needs by the way it cries or by its actions. If the teeth are the problem, the baby will drool a lot and will bite everything to calm its sore gums.

4. Make a schedule
It is crucial that you make a schedule and stick to it. Try to walk the baby at the same hour every day, put it down for a nap at the same hour every afternoon and put it down to bed at the same time every night.

5. Pay attention to the food
If you are breastfeeding, remember that everything you eat is transmitted to the baby. So do not consume aliments such as cabbage or peas, as they make the baby colicky. If you are diversifying your baby’s menu, do not give it sugar, as this will keep him or her up at night and you will have problems getting your child to eat regular food.

5. Play some music
While at first glance this suggestion might sound weird, the point is to not keep the baby in the quiet all the time. You must expose the baby to noise, to music, the company of loud people. The baby needs to get used to it. Otherwise your life will be difficult as hell if your baby wakes up every time there’s any kind of quiet noise.